Destructive Thinking 101

How can we work on those negative thoughts that control our minds? Can we get to the point where we no longer play those same destructive tapes?depressed woman

The Apostle Paul reminds us to “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2 NASB).

But how does that happen? How can our minds be renewed?

We can begin by recognizing some of the destructive thoughts, such as:

• Too many “shoulds” – thoughts that sound like “I should do this, I ought to do this, Everyone expects me to do this”, etc. The “should” thoughts usually come from a background of perfectionism, trying to gain appreciation because of what we DO rather than being satisfied with WHO we are.

• Worry and fear – those anxious “What if this happens?” thoughts. If you keep a journal about the “What-ifs,” you’ll see how seldom those outcomes really happen. Most of the time we worry about things that never materialize.

• Grudges and Resentments – those “This is what happened that ruined my life” thoughts. Keeping score of others’ mistakes or even our own mistakes leads us down the path toward bitterness, ruined health and mistrust in relationships.

These are just a few of the negative thoughts that can destroy our peace. So how do we deal with these negative patterns? What can we do to eliminate this toxic thinking?

• Memorize and live by the truths of Philippians 4:8. Be aware of negative thoughts and instead replace them with what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, of good reputation, excellence and praise.

• Pray and ask God to help you focus on the positive rather than the negative.

• Keep a gratitude journal.

• Talk to a counselor at GateWay of Hope who can help you find the root of these destructive thoughts.

• Ask a friend to keep you accountable, to remind you when any negativity comes out of your mouth.

Let’s fight these destructive thoughts so that we can live more peaceful lives and fill our minds with things that are pure and good.

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